Happiness and Denial. How are these related?
Inversely I would think.
As we have often discussed, allowing, accepting and gratitude are on the path of actualization of happiness.
Contrawise it would seem, denial of our TOTAL personal responsibility in the condition of our lives are paving stones with which highways to our miseries may be built.
Journey on these highways of denial long and you may find then a growing misery founded firmly in this victim mentality.
Why is this victimhood? If we are not responsible, the fates or evil doers must be, yes?
This kind of thinking builds denial quickly into a foundation upon which our now righteously indignant victimhood stands.
We cannot when feeling like a victim feel good, except for the temporary pang of recognition we receive when we are acknowledged for how much our lives suck.
Or perhaps when we find the holy grail, another victim who’s afflicted similarly to us and thus suffers perhaps as we do. Sweet is suffering shared. Isn’t it?
Misery likes company and as it pursues company can spread like the contagion of plague. Ever noticed?
This 15 minutes of fame through recognition for having a sucky victim life, however long it may actually be, is frosted with pain, grown lighter only by its recognition, which paradoxically, makes the pain the more real and permanent.
More freeing, more happy, more joyous, more free are we when we take full responsibility for the state of our lives and choose to change our lives by changing ourselves.
We can change our lives thorugh changing our thoughts, by doing the work which changes our thinking and by the actions and feelings which accompany these changes.
We all need love where we have acted like victims. We have all acted like victims at one time or perhaps more honestly many times… We feel all the more well when we get the love we need for our foolish actions and behave like the bright powerful responsbile spirits that we are. Wouldn’t you agree?
Our thoughts are powerful in the journey of our lives. We might journey the more peacefully if we take care to be responsible in our thinking.
Gratefully and responsibly yours,
Yucel