Ever get in a fight and a referee, teacher or parent came in the room, you exclaimed indignantly, “But, he hit me first!”

Or perhaps, you might have been the parent coming into the room, only to have to split up this spitting pair.  Each of them righteous. 

Exasperated, you asked, “who threw the first punch?”

I do not envy the judges of this world.  Yes society needs them.  Yes I have needed them (in my divorce).  And sometimes, we as parents are the judge.  What to do?

What happened?  As we judge others, we judge ourselves. (  http://choose.ws/2009/07/13/what-is-reality/mirroring/judgement-on-the-judgemental/yucel/ )  So, what is a parent to do?

Well, first of all, who did throw the first punch?

Was it the person who actually let their fist fly first?

Was it the first person to actually land a punch?

How about the first person to say something snide?  Was this the fight starter?

All of these are fairly easy to figure out.  Not necessarily easy.  Just fairly easy.  How about the person who came into the room and didn’t punch or say anything.  But on entering the room gave a dastardly look and perhaps made a really aggravatingsound or gesture?

In the study of communications, we learn that about 90% of communication is non verbal. 

Thus we do not have to say anything in words to get 90% of the communication accross.  Ever look at a picture of Marilyn Monroe,?  Or Valentino?  They speak volumes in the instant of the shot and have both been long gone and yet still “speak” to us through these photos.  Uh huh.

Then there is the law of attraction which states that we send out vibrations.  And, these vibrations, what ever they be, attract to us the exact matching resonant vibration. 

So, who threw the first punch?

Is it possible to punch someone who has not asked (in some way) to be punched?

If we always have choice, do we have choice when we punch someone? 

Did we already decide to punch someone, and vibrationally attract someone wanting to be punched?

Either the law (law of attraction) works all the time, or none of the time.

Either you believe the law or you don’t.  The data for the law, once you know to look for it, seems to be overwhelming.  I’m mostly convinced of the law’s inviolability.   Is that even a word?  (It is now..  Inviolatability isn’t..  I looked it up.)

One of these manifestations of the law seems to be that we each appear to have the exact life we choose. 

Show me a persons life, I’ll show you their thoughts.  Show me a persons thoughts, I’ll show you their life.  Change a thought, the life changes, and vice versa.  

Believe me?  Then, if someone got punched, what were they thinking?

And so, who threw the first punch?

Or is that even the right question?

Gets very gray, n’est pas?

Peacefully yours,

Yucel