We have talked about how judgment of others is judgment of self, in the instant (link:  http://choose.ws/2009/06/26/what-is-reality/mirroring/forgiveness/yucel/ ).  So, what if knowing this, we judge others for having judgment?  What does it mean for us then?

We are still judging others, right?

We have also talked about what we see in others we have to work on in ourselves… (link:  http://choose.ws/2009/07/06/what-is-reality/mirroring/as-i-see-it-in-others-i-must-work-on-it-in-me/yucel/ ). 

Therefore, I see that as I judge others for judging, I am judging OTHERS and need to work on judging…  this said, I have judged others recently for being judgmental… I have work to do on me… what work and how exactly,  hmmm?

The journey begins.  I have found that many times, recognizing something, admitting to it, is the first step, often of many steps… on the path to recovery.  So, I know I must work more on this judgment within myself.  Because I am judging myself, even as I judge others for judging.

For me, it doesn’t feel good to judge.  When I judge, I can feel how the taste of the feeling is bad.  At least I know this for sure when I judge something as bad.   I judge it bad, the feeling tastes bad.  Boom.

I have heard that people will judge to put other people into “comfortable” manageable boxes.  Boom, this one is in the bad box.  Boom, this one is in the “X” box, not to be confused with the popular game of the similar name. 

Once in these boxes, a certain comfort is reached.  We can be holier than thou, maybe?   Or what else is the comfort?  Why do we judge?  How does it really serve us?

I know that we need to make choices as a sort of short cut to make daily life manageable.  Every action or inaction is in a way a choice.  This thing is not for me…  I choose this other one.  I prefer it.  Choice seems integral to life.

Discerning what is the right choice for us now seems the path to a more peace filled and happier more fulfilling life.

What happens though when we turn from discernment and choice to judgment?

I believe when we judge and label something we say:  this is bad, this is evil, this is good, when we frame it such, we then move from looking at whether something is for us, choosing or discerning,  to labeling its value, judging.

And, when we make a judgment that devalues something or someone, we devalue and judge ourselves. 

When we value something as good, I get the sense that this too is a slippery slope and is an area where we need to work again on ourselves.  Would appreciate comments with regards to this.  What does it mean to judge something as good?  If as we judge others it shows where we have to work on ourselves, what work must we do on ourselves when we judge something as good?

Back to Michael Jackson,  when we judged him good, how easy was it, and how did our judging Michael, and other celebrities as good, turn into such outrage when we then got glimmers that they were in fact with human frailties?

Having first judged our idols as good, then knowing them human, how did we judge ourselves then in this course?

Peace and growth to us,

Yucel