I have had a long and passionate love affair with the word “want” in my life, in my recent spiritual enlightenment journey, and during my long career in sales.  Now I am choosing that “want” and I are taking a break…

Michael Losier’s excellent book, “Law of Attraction,” is subtitled “The Science of Attracting More of What you Want and Less of What You Don’t. 

Losier’s methods include making lists in two columns, one termed  “Contrast – things I don’t like” and another “Clarity – things I like.” 

The “Contrast – things I don’t like” are things in your life you don’t like or want.  The items on the “Clarity – things I like” side are determined by asking “So, what do I want?” with regards to the items on the Contrast side.  Then a strikeout line is written through the contrasting thing/things we didn’t want and we are finally left with our list of wants.  See worksheet:  http://www.lawofattractionbook.com.au/pdfs/Clarity_Thru_Contrast.pdf

Want is a powerful motivator in many sales interactions, think commercials: 

“Do you want a cuter figure?  Do you want to be thinner?  Do you want a four hour erection?”  Etecera, Etecera… 

Want is a term used in many spiritual journeys.  In my Foundations class at New Visions Center, we ask three questions in a iterative series, that is over and over again, to gain clarity regarding our desires:

What do I really want?

What form do I see this taking?

What specific experience do I desire from what I really want?

Recall that spiritual journey is like an onion with an infinite number of layers.  Each of these above listed teachings and tools have served me on my journey.  

The journey however is infinite. 

Last night, I gained clarity on the word “want” and have decided on choosing new tools.

Insight on this decision begins with the definition of “want:”

Want Defined (  as excepted from  http://www.thefreedictionary.com/want )

v. want·ed, want·ing, wants  [from Middle English wanten, to be lacking]

v.tr.  1.a. To desire greatly; wish for: Synonyms at desire.  1.b. To desire (someone to do something):  2. a. To request the presence or assistance of:  2.b. To seek with intent to capture:  3. To have an inclination toward; like:  4. Informal To be obliged (to do something):  5. To be without; lack. See Synonyms at lack.  6. To be in need of; require:

v.intr.  1. To have need:   2. To be destitute or needy.  3. To be disposed; wish:

n.  1. The condition or quality of lacking something usual or necessary:  2. Pressing need; destitution:  3. Something desired:   4. A defect of character; a fault.

Clearly, “want” is a form of defect or lack of what we might like. 

To want something is to acknowledge its lack and through such acknowledgement, via The Law of Attraction ( LOA ), create more lack.  

The way LOA functions is to creates more of whatever we focus on. 

If we thus focus on want or lack, we get more want and or lack.  And so on.

So, now you kinda know where am I going with this?

Want is not as Losier posits clarity. 

Want may be at best a stepping stone on the way to clarity.

Still, “want” itself remains wanting and may itself be a form of contrast, as the term “contrast” is used by Losier to mean “What I don’t want,” in that who sanely desires lack of what is truly liked? 

Losier’s idea of contrast is a key and useful concept because we often have a better idea of our contrasts than we do our lacks (wants). 

Still, these wants themselves are just that, lacks.  And thus wants are not full clarity.

What then if not “want” may be our next step on the path to clarity?

That is, what might be the better question to ask than “What do I want“?  

I like:    What do I CHOOSE?

Easy enough for us to remember if reading this blog choose.ws, right?   Ha!

We always have choice.  

We might thus choose to think and or say:

I choose to have a cheeseburger (I do love them so).

I choose to have love in my life.

I choose to be healthy.

I choose to be thin.

If you have any remaining illusions regarding “want,” try saying the above sentences with “want” in place of “choose.”

Take a moment to feel how  “choose” and “want” vibrate differently in your gut. 

Are you noticing that choosing feels empowered?  

Doesn’t saying “I choose” feel like practically having? 

Notice too, how does saying “I want” feel?

Notice any difference between choosing and wanting? 

Are you noticing the feeling of lack in “want“?

What do you choose?

Yours in choice,

Yucel