Category Archives: Transformation

There’s always a next thing, we never arrive

While there are events in life which are transformative, books, events and thoughts which transform us, we never truly arrive.

Life is a constant state of change. Each thought we have in each moment, each millisecond, is different, separate and distinct from past and future thoughts, even as they are linked in one unified continuous flow.

While we are alive at least, some would posit even before and beyond, there is always a next thing. We never arrive.

Is our spirit changeless? Some would say our spirits are evolving through this thing we call life. Thus even spirits are in flux. Others may have a different view.

What is undeniable is that while alive, we are in flux.

We never arrive. We can learn to be happy. Then be happy. But, we can always learn to be happier. More blissful. More at grace.

There is no book we read, No class we take, No epiphany we have, which leads us to arrive.

Those of us who feel we have arrived usually seem after a fashion to be stagnant, regardless of how good our digs or disposition.

Show me someone who is blissful, I’ll show you a student or a teacher. A person on a path sometimes straight, often with many forks, detours and round-a-bouts.

This is not to say certain classes and books and teachings and learnings are not important to the process of transformation. Nor to say that transformation cannot come in leaps or bounds as often it does. It is to say these are some of the paving stones on an endless path of discovery and enlightenment towards deeper and deeper levels of inner peace.

After none of these processes can you truly say you have arrived.

You have always arrived. You are always here. You can never be anywhere but here and now. And, you can never arrive. You can never get there. There is always a journey which occurs from here to here.

Yours in journey,

Yucel

Intrusion

Intrusion. Much of what we learn in New Age or New Thought Modalities teaches us not to intrude. Not to attempt to change others.

Real Love ( www.reallove.com) teaches us that we cannot expect to change another person. That change comes from within. Still, even in Real Love, we sometimes see the mirror of truth being held up before us lit awfully brightly, albeit to someone who has asked to be shown them self to them self as they are seen by the one holding the mirror for them. Even here, the formula is Love, Teach, Love.

The Buddhist Monk from the interviews in the “What the Bleep” Movie tells us that pain is part of the path to enlightenment ( http://choose.ws/2009/07/02/questions-surveys/transformative-media/yucel/ ).

Can it be right to cause pain to aid another in transformation?

Werner Erhard ( the Founder of EST Erhard Seminars Training, the employees of which started The Forum when Erhard left the USA after character assassination by a 60 Minutes TV segment ) was said to be the father of the term Transformation and a slew of other vernacular we take for granted in the self help world today.

The title of this excellent documentary was also “Transformation”.

To bring transformation to seminar participants, who paid Erhard large sums to attend and be transformed, Werner would attempt to unstick pain from the past, so people could move into the future.

He would do this often through causing mental and emotional pain.

His discourse and questions would bring the individual’s traumatic events from the past into the present and then teach the participant to take personal responsibility for their holding onto of past pain. A kind of mental slap.

A bright mirror of self showing how clutter from the past creates more of same in the future unless it is emptied out.

A mirror held up to show how by clinging to the victim story of pain endured in the past, the individual was taking the payoff of victim celebrity and also choosing through this payoff to being held back from moving into a brighter future unencumbered by any weighty story.

A future not defined by and thus limited by the past. A wide open, a transformed future.

Thus a slap, or pain can under the right circumstances, bring about transformation, if it unsticks us from a past as victim and frees us to move without a story into a future we can make, by being authentically present to our true desires in the now.

I assume other transformations are also possible. I am focused on positive aspects.

Thus, this does not address the moral implications of attempting to transform another. And yet, if they paid, were they not asking to be transformed?

When is it right? Is it always wrong? How can it be used well? What is the path to stay on?

Transformatively yours,

Yucel

Denial of responsibility large factor in unhappiness

Happiness and Denial. How are these related?

Inversely I would think.

As we have often discussed, allowing, accepting and gratitude are on the path of actualization of happiness.

Contrawise it would seem, denial of our TOTAL personal responsibility in the condition of our lives are paving stones with which highways to our miseries may be built.

Journey on these highways of denial long and you may find then a growing misery founded firmly in this victim mentality.

Why is this victimhood? If we are not responsible, the fates or evil doers must be, yes?

This kind of thinking builds denial quickly into a foundation upon which our now righteously indignant victimhood stands.

We cannot when feeling like a victim feel good, except for the temporary pang of recognition we receive when we are acknowledged for how much our lives suck.

Or perhaps when we find the holy grail, another victim who’s afflicted similarly to us and thus suffers perhaps as we do. Sweet is suffering shared. Isn’t it?

Misery likes company and as it pursues company can spread like the contagion of plague. Ever noticed?

This 15 minutes of fame through recognition for having a sucky victim life, however long it may actually be, is frosted with pain, grown lighter only by its recognition, which paradoxically, makes the pain the more real and permanent.

More freeing, more happy, more joyous, more free are we when we take full responsibility for the state of our lives and choose to change our lives by changing ourselves.

We can change our lives thorugh changing our thoughts, by doing the work which changes our thinking and by the actions and feelings which accompany these changes.

We all need love where we have acted like victims. We have all acted like victims at one time or perhaps more honestly many times… We feel all the more well when we get the love we need for our foolish actions and behave like the bright powerful responsbile spirits that we are. Wouldn’t you agree?

Our thoughts are powerful in the journey of our lives. We might journey the more peacefully if we take care to be responsible in our thinking.

Gratefully and responsibly yours,

Yucel