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Presence and Gratitude

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Have you ever noticed where happiness takes place?

Does happiness ever occur in the past for instance?  

Were you happy yesterday perhaps?  And, if you were, can you recall this happiness of yesterday by being in yesterday, or do you recall it in the now? 

Yes, yesterday’s happiness occurs in the now, through our current memory.  Likewise any future anticipated happiness, which if it occurs, we are thinking of in the now, or if it happens, happens in a now.  (See also: http://choose.ws/2009/06/23/positive-pivots/everything-happens-in-the-now/yucel/ ) 

Everything happens in the now, including happiness.  All happiness happens in the now.

It occurs to me, that we can often create unhappiness by trying to live in the past, or in the future.  As we have discussed, this is impossible.  Everything we live, we live in the now. 

In trying to live in the past, the good old days of yore, we create a kind of melancholia, either for good, or for bad days past.  We might feel victim to bad events past.  Or, we might feel sad that a past pleasure is, well, past.

For the future, we might have an optimism or a pessimism about what may occur in the future.  We expect wolves or chest of gold behind trees in the forest.  Finding neither or either, we are usually disappointed.  Optimism or pessimism is attachment to future outcomes, a kind of expectation attachment.  ( See also:  http://choose.ws/2009/06/11/allowing/positive-realism/yucel/ )  These invariably lead to sadness.  And, more to the point of this blog, keep us from being present to the now.

All happiness occurs in the present.  To be present, we must live in the present.  Be aware that everything occurs in the present.  If we think back on something from the past, what ever the thought, “good”  or “bad”  or “indifferent,”  we will find deepest happiness in the now by being grateful for that experience.   (See also:  http://choose.ws/2009/07/31/quotes/bill-martuge/the-truth-about-gratitude/yucel/  )

Anything which may happen in the future, we may look forward to.  However, care must be taken to do this without any attachment.  Again, gratitude for where we are, places us in happiness, which only occurs in the now.  ( See also:  http://choose.ws/2009/05/01/positive-pivots/hello-world/yucel/ )

That is, while looking forward to something may feel good, and through LOA may cause it to occur, any good feeling happens in the now.  And, any attachment to the outcome, may well cause disappointment in some now, and will in the present, detract from a true happiness, which results from gratitude, in the now, for what is.

The key to all happiness is gratitude in the now.

Gratefully yours,

Yucel

 

 

One Door Closes, Another One Opens

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“To get something you never had, you have to do something you never did.’   When God takes something from your grasp, He’s not punishing you, but merely opening your hands to receive something better.  Concentrate on this sentence… ‘The will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you.’  Something good will happen to you today; something that you have been waiting to hear.”  

I had been planning to write on “One Door Closes, Another One Opens” for a bit now.  I place little drafts or reminders of blog topics into a saved folder, then I come back to them and off I go…

Today, I decided to write on this topic and was going through some old emails, there was this one going back to April, 2009.   It’s title was “read this sentence closely.”  Nothing spectacularthere… then I read inside, and it was spot on the topic I intended to blog.  Coincidence perhaps?  Anyone here believe in the law of attraction (LOA)?  Synchronicity? 

In any event, I believe firmly that we create our own reality, and in order for something new to come into our lives, we must create space for it.  That is, One door closes, another door opens.  It is not the other way around.  It is not, one door opens, another door closes.

Sure sometimes a door opens; however, if we have not closed a door first, then we seem unable to go through the open door.  We are stuck.  Stuck until we have a closed door first, creating space for a new door.  Then when another door opens, and we are free to go through.

Perhaps you had a great deal available to you on the perfect house… yet you already had a house… so you passed on the perfect house.  Perhaps you had the opportunity to try out for a great new job, but, you already had a job, changing jobs was risky… so you stayed put…  perhaps a great new relationship opportunity came along, yet the potential partner passed you on, knowing you were already committed, or you were too afraid to fully make the leap yourself, being half in something else. 

Around May or June of 2008, I was getting over a relationship, but was still carrying its pangs with me… and, though I dated a great deal, nothing was sinking in.  It was about that time I was learning about LOA, and put out to the universe exactly what I wanted…  within two days, I found her.  Exactly her… sitting in a bar at a casino.  I said hello.  We had a nice chat… it was exactly her… She liked me, and politely refused to date me…  because her time was too valuable to date someone who was emotionally unavailable, thank you very much,…  My doors had not been closed yet in order to be able to open with this lady…

Quickly, thanks to this awakening slap (spun my head clear around it did), I shed the energy around the past relationship, and within a few weeks that door was closed.  Being closed, a new door then opened quickly for me.  This door I was able to walk through.

Where haven’t you seen this?  One door closes, another one opens.

Who among you have noticed this in your life?

 Or in the lives of your friends or loved ones?

Who will use this?

Yours in peace,

Yucel