Isn’t it interesting that I should list forgiveness under the heading of mirroring.  We’ll, I came by forgiveness today by way of reading from Harry Palmer’s “Living Deliberately” about honesty being a form of mirroring in that any honesty, or more disturbingly lack there of,  is a mirror of our own honesty… etcetera…

I will write more on honesty in a separate blog.  Here, lets focus on forgiveness.  For me, the clearest I have ever seen the issue of forgiveness was from Vaughan and Walsh’s  “Gifts from a Course in Miracles” where they write “In complete forgiveness… you recognize… there is nothing to forgive, you are absolved completely.”

What this means for me is also tied into something we discussed at a Real Love meeting (website:  www.Reallove.org) where the consensus was, often it is difficult for us to accept our own inner monsters;   however, when someone shares with us about their inner monster, we may be able through compassion, understanding and identification with our inner monster, love their inner monster, which is a mirror of our inner monster, and in that way, learn to love our inner monster, to in effect love ourselves, which we found difficult to love directly beforehand. 

This seems to me the same as the forgiveness alluded to by Vaughan and Walsh.   Generally, when we are in the hey I forgive you mode, our first step in forgiveness is to forgive someone.  To say something like, “its okay honey, I forgive you.”  This however is not true forgiveness.  True forgiveness is when we realise and love the other, and regardless of events, circumstances, etcetera, we realize there is actually nothing to forgive.  And, in that instant, we forgive ourselves.  We ourselves are absolved.  We love ourselves.  Our realization that forgiveness is not required of the other, is an acceptance of our own divine, profoundly loving nature,  and frees us to rightly  love ourselves. 

Or, is it the other way around?  Thoughts? 

It may have been in Vaughan and Walsh, or in “Course in Miracles” or another place,  I was introduced to the thought that the concept of Judge not least yea be Judged, was not so much a warning of what was coming down the road, rather it is an instantaneous mirrored self judgement that we put on ourselves,  when we put ourselves in the lofty bench where we feel we can judge another.

It’s all about us, all the time.

Peacefully yours,

Yucel

Mirroring is a very interesting concept and makes for an excellent topic of discussion as it is open to so wide an interpretation of what is and what isn’t mirroring.

So, what is mirroring?  It is the concept that whatever we perceive in the world is really whatever is going on within each of us.  So, as you read this, it is really a mirror of what is going on inside your head.  As someone else reads it, it mirrors what is going on inside their head.  As I write it, it is a mirror of what is going on inside my head, and so on.

This makes more sense when you consider that each of us sees the world through our own filter.    No two people see an identical event in identical ways.  There is always some difference, often quite the difference.  The Arabs and Israelis for instance.  Or Democrats and Republicans.  Or Communists and Fascists.  Each of these groups sees events similarly within their own group, a little differently from each person in their group, and generally wildly different from the people in the contrasting groups.

One corollary of this I have heard is that when someone we know commits suicide, mirroring occurs here where we wanted to kill off that part of usrepresented by that person who killed them self, wholly.  Yeah, I know.  Very twilight zone and disturbing that we are somehow responsible through our thoughts and feelings for someone elses self demise.   Especially when we consider that we each have right of choice, and that other person made their choice on their own… right?  So, how can they both mirror our thoughts and feelings, especially when we may have loved that person, and have the independent, inalienable right of choice, and still be mirroring our thought to have that part of us killed off?

Is it like the Law of Attraction?  The LOA either is always working or is never working.  It is the law or it is fantasy.  I believe it is Law and is always in effect.

The law of choice is always in effect, at least when one is beyond infancy, and maybe even during infancy.  Some believe we incarnate and choose our parents and life, even before birth, perhaps.

What about mirroring?  Is everything a mirror?  How could some things be a mirror and not others?  And if everything is a mirror, how can the right of others to choice be coexistent with them being mirrors of us (hence their choice occurs within us)?  Is it because of our perception, that is how we choose to perceive the events external to us that their choice is also coincidentally made within us?  Would love some thoughts on this…  to me, it is very much like the time travel paradox.  Okay, time travel may or may not be possible, personally, I believe we cannot go back and change anything, anything that happened, happened the only way it can, because it has happened.  And, going forward, by living in the moment, we can make the future different.  But, say we could go back in time, and somehow change something in the life of our ancestors.  Then we would never be born.  Having never been born, we couldn’t go back in time to change anything…. so that in itself is a good argument why time travel cannot happen.  But, what about mirroring?  Can it be that everything is a mirror?

Most of us who have studied new age modalities know and understand the practicalities of when someone is angry with us, it is not about us, it is about them.  We are a mirror for them to display their anger, which is internal to them.  How though if they are mirrors for us, does this make us choose to be a mirror for them, who are using us as a mirror for their anger?   That is what kind of mirror are they for us in this instance?

Comments are going to be highly appreciated.

Peace and mirrors,

Yucel