Ever make what seemed a bad choice?   Or perhaps you have gotten results which seemed bad?    Maybe you have had or still have encounters or relationships which seem versions of living nightmares? 

Yes?

Well then, welcome to the club.  

If we live this human existence, these are the party favors.   The favors pile on in what ever quantity we require. 

As many helpings as we each need for us to learn the lessons we need to learn.  For most if not all of us, pain seems to be the Great Teacher.  

Budda, Christ, Moses, for each, their paths included individual trials.

Do you remember your choices as you make them?  Are they made in complete love?  Are they spiced with or rife with fear?

We alway choose to experience exactly what we need in order to learn the lessons we need to learn.  

As we see in “The Way of Mastery“, all choices really are the choice to love or fear. 

These choices we make, the people we encounter along our way, we have choosen as learning experiences and teachers. 

If we choose to think of our teachers as our tormentors, we have used our power of choice to learn lessons in the arena of what it is like to experience acting like a victim.

Recently, I have come to view the many excellent nightmarish relationships, encounters and experiences of my life as teachers and lessons.  This is a loving retrospective perspective, which provides a great deal of comfort, when made honestly and wholly.

While it may be difficult to be grateful for, or allowing of, a tormentor per se, what if we relalize that we choose this torment?  What if we realise we had learned lessons through this torment?  What if we realized that we could not be where we are today without this torment?

What if we realized we choose this torment, because it was the best we could do, to get to the next level of our growth, our development, our increased enlightenment? 

That yes, we made this choice.  The tormentor only obliged us our choice?

What if we realized, this individual, this circumstance, this encounter, was our teacher?  Our lesson?

What if we were honest?  What if we were back in time, to the place we made the choice?

What if we reconsidered how we made the choice we made in the first place?

I see many people, myself included.  Who when asked and are honest, will tell you they choose without regard for consequence, or compromised, or knew or feared for a poor outcome, and yet, choose so regardless.  That we in fact chose not in complete love.  That we chose with varying degrees of fear.

To choose in fear is to choose fear.  Choose instead love.  Unless fear is the best you can do.  In which case, say hello to your teacher.  Welcome your lessons which are surely coming.

These lessons and teachers are here to teach us what we need to experience in order to learn to make better choices.

Many of us have, or have had, various expletive nicknames for these experiences and encounters. 

These nicknames are often quite a bit shy of loving.

We do well to lovingly and gratefully refer to these encounters by their proper names:  Lesson and Teacher.

Try it and you will feel its power to transform your life.

Cool!  How cool are answers anyway?   Answers to all life’s little questions.  Answers, for sale.  Free!  Big questions too?  No problem.

Where are these answers?  You guessed it.  They are inside you.  Feel gypped?  Wait, it gets worse… 

According to Edwin Land, inventor of the Polaroid camera,

“A mistake is a future benefit, the full value of which is yet to be realized.”

Okay, so maybe I misspoke… if a mistake is a future benefit, that’s better, not worse, right?

Answers are often not forthcoming without mistakes.   

Did I say free?

Misspoke again.  Come on!  Can’t I get anything right right out of the bag?

They say you get what you pay for.  That what goes around comes around.  Is that true too?

If it is true, mistakes – also read “miss-takes”- are what goes around.

Sometimes it makes my head ring thinking about it all going around and around, which is what I do with a great deal of my time…

So, if we do a mistake, then is a mistake going around?

What if we think of it as Land says, a future benefit going around to enlighten and enrich us?

If like me you are old enough to actually have taken a Polaroid picture, as in “shake it like a polaroid picture,” why not take a chance?  Maybe even a mistake. 

Go ahead.  Shake it for a bit.  Wait and watch as the benefits develop before your eyes. 

If Land is right, and I believe he is, benefits are just around the corner. 

With all my mistakes, I got so much cool stuff around my corner… 

How about you?

Peace and Love,

Yucel

 

Accepting and allowing what it is will free you from a struggle against which you cannot escape.The tribe also jealously guards its territory. 

You can however, change your perspective, and in the flow of the river, instead of fighting the flow by swimming upstream and still drifting down, swim across the stream, or perhaps even go with the flow. 

While it is what it is,  your perspective and choices can make worlds of difference. 

When youget into a mindset of gratitude and acceptance of the flow and are allowing, accepting and dreaming happy dreams of abundance and gratitudes, be careful with whom you share your dreams. 

Everyone and everything is a mirror of ourselves. 

Some of these mirrors with whom we share and into whom we stare into ourselves, if we choose to look in them knowing full well these mirrors are dark and murky, will by our choice to share through clouded dark mirrors, reflect darkness back into ourselves.  

It is always of our choosing whether we will cast our pearls before swine.

Choosing mirrors of brightness will reflect brightness into us.  This will allow a deeper acceptance and gratitude for what is and creates a more abundant what will be. 

There is a tribal mentality that gives comfort to us where we are in our groups and surroundings, even as we may be singly or collectively in pain.  Members of our tribe will back us up when new challenges come in to threaten us.   And, likewise may share in rewards.  The tribe thus shares griefs and provides a wide range of supports to its members. 

If you as a member of a tribe see opportunity in the next valley, the tribe that propped you up, may now hold you back. 

The tribe that will not accompany you on your chosen journeys will endeavor to hold you in place and keep you back from leaving and growing or succeeding where they choose not to accompany you.

As we grow our lights too grow brighter.  This brighter glow does get noticed.

Choose well with whom you share your shining light as it grows brighter. 

Yours in brightness,

Yucel