If they treat us with a disrespect or a rudeness, there must be some element within us where in we are  feeling disrespectful to ourselves.  

This general rule became clear to me during a sermon at NVC by Rev. Michelle Medrano Sunday, 2-28-2010.  I had a more specific personal experience with this phenomenon, when I realized that I kept attracting women into my life, romantically, who were either unavailable or unreliable.  

On discussing my situation with my friend “G” it was suggested I was in some way not arriving available or reliable to myself.  That if I arrived available and reliable to myself, that I would not even “see” women (romantically) who were other than reliable and available.  

While this advise sounded sagacious, and indeed was indeed just the sage tip I needed, figuring out how to arrive available and reliable to myself was a bit of a trick.  Still, having the question firmly in hand, that is how to arrive available and reliable personally, I was by measures able to achieve my desired results. 

In life, where we notice people inconveniencing us, if we notice in what way, and if we look into ourselves for the question, of what is it that is missing within us, perhaps we may gain the results we prefer.

We cannot change the behaviors of people, unless we change ourselves. 

By changing ourselves, other people’s reactions to us change, while simultaineously we attract a set of people resonant with and repel people dissonant with our new vibrations.