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“You can choose.” Harry Browne

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“You don’t have to buy from anyone. You don’t have to work at any particular job. You don’t have to participate in any given relationship. You can choose.”
— Harry Browne

When we are often the most depressed, we often say, “we have no choice.”

We always a have a choice. 

To be more satisfied in our lives, we need merely choose that which we love and prefer.

What then of he or she who is drowning in a sea of choice?

Our minds and the Law of Attraction cannot distinguish between imagination and experience. 

Using this property of mind we can try out in mind our choices to see how the feel.

Try mentally making a choice of one of the choices.  Decide on it.  Try it on in your head.  Fully feel, imagine, how this choice plays out in your mind. Feel how it feels in your gut and system as you live this choice mentally.  Take note of the feelings.   You are not looking so much to see how the choice plays out.  Rather, you should focus on how the choice feels.  Your feelings know better than you thoughts how well the choice works for you.

Then try choosing mentally another of the possible choices.  Again, go through the feelings.

As you progress through the choices, one will feel better than the others.

Choose this choice over the others.

If they all feel less than good, get help to brain storm other choices.

If you run out of time and must choose, choose the choice which felt the best of the choices you ran through.

You can also try playing out how it feels not to choose.

Sometimes where we are is better than where we may be.

It’s all choice.

Yours in choice,

Yucel

How to get what I Want

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When do I get what I want?  How do I get what I want?  Am I getting what I want?  It’s really quite simple when you realize what you are choosing when you want.

What do I mean by this?

Many of us do not do the work of realizing through examination of contrast what is in our lives we desire not to choose any longer and what we now truly desire manifesting.  Michael Losier explains a great deal about this concept of contrasts in his writings. 

Am I getting what I want? 

The answer is simple if slightly convoluted.   We always get whatever we focus on, through The Law of Attraction. When we want something, we are focused on desire of what we lack.  What we thus create through wanting is more lack.

( for more on contrast or want as lack see also:  http://choose.ws/2009/10/29/positive-pivots/choosing/what-place-do-you-choose-for-want-in-your-life/yucel/ )

How do I get what I want?

As we want, we desire more lack.  As we desire more lack, we create lack in our lives.  So, as we focus on want, we create want and lack in our lives.  And, as we always get what we focus on, we always get want we want.

If you find that when you want something, you notice a feeling of lack and that the thing you want is not in fact in your life, you are noticing the creatation of more lack, which is exactly what want is. 

By focusing on want, or lack, we are perpetrating more lack.

If you desire something, or choose something, or prefer something, you will get a different result than if you want something.

As the rich get richer and the poor get poorer, you will have what you are in gratitude of and lack what you want.

How then may we create consciously?

To actually create something we desire in our lives, we focus on the idea or feeling of what it is that we desire. 

Then we realize this thing we desire is already there for us in the infinity of the universe. 

Being there for us, we can be grateful for it. 

Focused thus on having it and being grateful for it, we may choose it, and by choosing it further perpetrate and multiply its presence through and in our lives.

Yours in choice,

Yucel

What may be better than Hope?

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Don’t you just find it so promising to be hopeful?  Isn’t hope a kind of optimistically good feeling that is bound to improve your life?

We have blogged on optimism in the past.  ( see:  http://choose.ws/2009/10/01/what-is-reality/positive-realistic/the-glass-is-half-full/yucel/ )

Hope can be another kind of optimism. 

We have also blogged on Presence and Gratitude.  ( see:  http://choose.ws/2009/09/09/what-is-reality/presence/presence-and-gratitude/yucel/ )

As we have discussed, happiness and therefore inner peace always occur in the present.

Being positive is a good way of looking at any situation,  as is being grateful.

So what then can it be to look at something with hope?

Isn’t it present or grateful to be hopeful?

Twice no.

First, when we are hoping, we may be giving up responsibility.  When so doing, we may in fact manifest a worse outcome than had we been less than hopeful.  In this mode, hope is used as a kind of crutch.  As with any crutch, we are handicapped when using one properly.  Examples:

We just hope to win the lottery.  Regardless of the handicap of not buying a ticket.   

We just hope the paint job will be a good one.  Regardless of the handicap of not having thought it through, hired professional help, or of giving our best to the project.

We just hope we will find a fabulous partner.  Regardless of being handicapped by refusing to do the work of making ourselves worthy.

Second, and I believe more to the point, hope is generally an expectation for and often an attachment to things being better than they currently are.  Examples of this context are:

We are being ungrateful by being hopeful.    By wanting, which is feeling lack, things to be better through being hopeful, we are in fact being less than grateful for and appreciative of how things are. 

If we were being grateful, we would be pleased with and thankful for how things are as opposed to being hopeful for them being different.

By looking for things to change in the future, we are in fact divorcing ourselves from being present.  

Since happiness can only occur in the present we, by being hopeful things will get better, are not being present.

How can we, while not present, ever be truly peaceful or happy?   I cannot imagine.

While gratitude can create happiness, we may also be creating want by being hopeful.  

Want is a lack.  ( for more on want, see also:  http://choose.ws/2009/10/30/positive-pivots/choosing/how-else-to-fill-the-lack-which-is-want/yucel/ )

As gratitude magnifies our blessings and happiness, hopefulness will magnify any current lacks we acknowledge through hoping.  

We are, when being hopeful, painfully aware of what is missing.  ( for more on missing, see also:  http://choose.ws/2009/05/01/positive-pivots/hello-world/yucel/ )

When things are missing, we feel pained.

Hoping when failing to be present always feels discordant.

Reaping what we sow by planting thoughts of hope, we will eventually harvest hope’s fruits, which must also of necessity be bitter, if we plant lack.

So you might ask, why then do we believe so strongly that hope feels good?  

When one is in great pain, alleviating the pain somewhat feels better.  There are many emotions and thoughts more painful than hope. 

Being negative or pessimistic for instance feels worse than hope.  

If we are feeling very negative about our prospects, going from negative to hopeful will generally feel better.

What we need to take care to keep in mind however is that hope is, at best, a way point; not a safe peaceful haven in its own right then quickly move forward from being hopeful into the present. 

How do we accomplish this?

We move into the present by being present. 

We may be present by being grateful, accepting and allowing of what is, while perhaps looking forward to more of the blessings we already have in abundance and for which are already grateful.

This is how we can feel happier and more peaceful now, while also manifesting the futures of our choice.

Gratefully yours,

Yucel

Authenticity, is it how we arrive?

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Have you every found yourself wondering at the authenticity of things, of your feelings,  of others?

Do you seem at times to be immersed in a bit of inauthenticity, which drive you to complain: 

She said she was going to do one thing, and did another!

The all you can eat burgers and lose 20 lbs diet, made my ass even bigger!!

But you said you wanted me to do that!!!

And so on…

We’ll have you ever considered how the life we perceive is one big mirror, and if we are seeing inauthenticity, inauthenticity may in affect be our own reflection:

Have you never given your phone number to someone you never intended to talk to?

Have you never considered that eating all the burgers you could eat is how your ass got big in the first place??

Have you never asked someone to do something for you, like wash your car, only to complain at the details of the job???

And so on…

I recently detected a pattern of how people were showing up in  my life.  People who were drawn to me and to whom I was drawn…  in patterns I considered, well frustrating.

On deeper examination, what I realized further was, these pattern existed for me since childhood.

These people, the new people, were mirrors of old reflections still shimmering within me.

To change how people are showing up in my life, I need to get more authentic about what is within me.

Isn’t it obviously inauthentic?  

If I keep choosing to shine out “all you can eat cheeseburgers for me,” my ass may grow larger in the mirror of my reflections.  Yes?

I do love cheeseburgers though.  Therefore, I need to take care to choose wisely ( authentically ), as opposed for example to choose opposites or in a willy nilly fashion:

I choose a no more delicious cheeseburger for me punishment diet!

A better more satisfying choice for me might be to choose something like:

I desire reasonable portions of delicious cheeseburgers, warm from the grill, with ample ketchup…

And so on…

Deliciously yours,

Yucel

 

 

 

12 Wonderful Instructions

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You may recall my suggestion about miscreation of the 10 Commandments.   Well, along the sames lines, how about I rewrite the 12 Wonderful Commandments to the 12 Wonderful Instructions.  Notice how they make you feel? 

( for 10 Commandments see:  ( http://choose.ws/2009/10/21/positive-pivots/law-of-attraction/could-the-venerable-10-commandments-be-causation-for-turmoil-among-jews-christains-and-muslims/yucel/  

for 12 Wonderful Commandments see:  http://choose.ws/2009/10/30/quotes/bill-martuge/12-wonderful-commandments/yucel )

The 12 Wonderful Instructions

1> Make your mind up to be happy.

2> Make the Best of your Circumstances.

3> Take yourself lightly.

4> Always please yourself.

5> Set your own standards.

6> Do the things you enjoy doing… with money that you have earned.

7> Always focus on solutions.

8> Only associate with people who you are joyous around.

9> Have many interests. Travel and or read about new places.

10> Let go of the dead, of sorrow and of mistakes.

11> Do for those less fortunate than yourself only what you can.

12> Keep busy at something.  A busy person is always happy.

Always be thankful.

Notice any difference in how you feel after reading each list?

Love,

Yucel